I have a boyfriend of 7 months although we have dated on and off for the past 30 years. He is a functional drug addict holding a high stress corporate job and manages ADHD as well. For the first time in all of those years, we have been having candid conversation about the fact that he is an addict although he believes that his addiction is all "psychological" and that he can stop if only for the fact that he needs to grow up and stop searching for a way to have fun and instead save his money for things that would be a positive in his life. I don't do drugs - never have - he seems to like that about me. Not sure why exactly. We are closer than we ever have been and he is having me meet his family. But I'm worried that I will end up attending his funeral long before I should. I don't know what to do. I know I can't help him with my lack of knowledge about addiction but I don't want to leave him either. We get along so well. He doesn't believe he can reach out for help or if he even needs it. He hasn't promised that he will stop completely and I know he won't even though he knows as healthy as he appears to be, a full physical would probably show long term damage. He refuses to face that. I want to be a positive influence in his life somehow instead of being silent and enabling his habit. Just not sure how I could do that.
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