So I've been dating someone for a few months and he's been in recovery since the start of the year. He went home to visit his family for the weekend. I didn't hear from him the whole weekend. He calls me Sunday on his way back from LA and we just talk on the phone about our weekend. He tells me he was out surfing the whole weekend. He was in a good mood and we start making plans for the week to come. In other words we just had a great conversation. He is on his way to his meeting by this time. After his meeting he calls me up again and admits to me that he relapsed over the weekend. He had some drinks and went out to get drugs. So basically he had just lied to me an hour before. This is the first time he has relapsed since we've been together. I know he's had some in the past. He's going into detox today. I dont know when I'm going to see him again. I don't know how to feel or what to say. I feel a great deal of anger right now. Like all I can think about is "How could he do that??" after all his hard work and being sober for so many months. I try being there for him but he never really wants to talk about his past or his recovery. I never push the subject cause I know its a sensitive topic. As we were talking on the phone he was apologizing for messing it up and that he had thought about me a lot after it had happened. I told him that I understand that his sobriety comes first. I'm trying my best but I don't know what to do. I want to be there for him but at the same time I don't know if being in a relationship is what would best for him right now. I need some advice. What happens after someone relapses? After what he said I don't even know if I can trust him anymore. What should I do? What CAN I do?
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